I wholeheartedly believe in true love and I do know that God has a purpose partner for me, but I am definitely not the ultimate girly girl who dreams her wedding day on a regular basis, awaiting the moment she would get proposed to, and having the perfect guy! I thoroughly enjoy being single right now as I continue to focus on my businesses, personal goals, and strive to become the woman God created me to be. However, there comes a point in time where women begin to strongly desire marriage.
When it comes to your single life, why do you desire marriage? Is it because you see it up and down your timeline? Or is it because the finest men just keep popping the question, but you’re left single with no potentials! Or do you feel as if your time is ticking and you always get the “When are you getting married” question at every family gathering? There are many Christian ladies like me who are enjoying their singleness, but at some point that season will eventually come to an end. Your single season right now may still involve going out to the clubs, sleeping with other guys, or just hanging out with your friends. Your single season may be enduring a broken relationship or maintaining a relationship that you know will not go anywhere. Your single season may involve you just focusing on being a better you, reading your word, growing in God and waiting for the right man to seek you. Your single season may involve not even rushing in the direction of marriage because you know the true sacrifice that comes with it and you are not going to marry just some anybody! (Yep, that’s me!)
Wherever you are in this season, there will come a point where you think, “I don’t want to be single anymore” and the desire for marriage will come; and for some that may be shocking! When you get this desire, that doesn’t mean you start signing up for online dating, calling, or texting the guy you think is “the one.” When this desire comes, know that the Holy Spirit is trying to prepare you to walk in your singleness for a purpose and not just carrying a status. Aim to be in a complete season of singleness that will truly prepare you to become COMPLETE with yourself and no strings attached. No daydreams that are filled with lustful desires, no pretending you are happy when you really aren’t, no crying silent tears at night wishing you had someone to hold you. True singleness is not being content with your circumstance, true singleness is being confident & content with who you are in Christ regardless of your circumstances. As Paul expressed in I Corinthians 7:7-9 “But I wish everyone were single, just as I am. Yet each person has a special gift from God, of one kind or another. So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.” NLT
I want to encourage you to stay single, become complete, as you wait to be united with the man God has for you to fulfill purpose with. Aim to maintain self-control of your lustful desires to avoid rushing into a marriage that is not for you or of God. Now that the desire has come, cast your desire on to God, let it go, and allow God to begin to show you, you! Don’t ask Him to show you the man for you. At the right time you will be presented to him when you least expect it.